The main thing I'm focusing on is being kinder to and gentler with myself, which dovetails nicely with the idea of moving away from shame. Shame is insidiously interwoven into so many aspects of our culture, and it's a constant effort for me to work on giving myself grace.
I relate so much to the years spent “motivating” myself to change the way I eat. I am much better now at catching myself when I’m veering towards disordered eating, but in general my only guiding light is leaning into what makes my body feel good - right now that’s veggies & eggs for breakfast and lifting weights. I let everything else go.
In my world,I have a fifth F-flounder.Where response is completely out of line with anything expected."Gee it's a nice day out","what is your opinion","why?","you know you might be right"(the meaning of might,being completely open).How can I help?-Shame is based on our ability to read other folk's minds.Knowing the success rate at that,I (once I realize,I'm at it again) I'll look for the what,where and(or) why.Without a great deal of effort,I seldom lost.
The main thing I'm focusing on is being kinder to and gentler with myself, which dovetails nicely with the idea of moving away from shame. Shame is insidiously interwoven into so many aspects of our culture, and it's a constant effort for me to work on giving myself grace.
I relate so much to the years spent “motivating” myself to change the way I eat. I am much better now at catching myself when I’m veering towards disordered eating, but in general my only guiding light is leaning into what makes my body feel good - right now that’s veggies & eggs for breakfast and lifting weights. I let everything else go.
In my world,I have a fifth F-flounder.Where response is completely out of line with anything expected."Gee it's a nice day out","what is your opinion","why?","you know you might be right"(the meaning of might,being completely open).How can I help?-Shame is based on our ability to read other folk's minds.Knowing the success rate at that,I (once I realize,I'm at it again) I'll look for the what,where and(or) why.Without a great deal of effort,I seldom lost.