A new support group is being formed (even as you read this) it is for friends and relations of folks who talk too much-On and On and On Anon,the same thoughts apply to business meetings,those without a topic accomplish little. Those with a pre announced purpose,give folks a chance to gather their thoughts. To misquote others but somewhat apropos "let it based on attraction rather than promotion"-Do what you choose to do,if others enjoy they will flock. If they don't,let it be their misfortune. We were raised in one of the most "communal" societies in the nation-the military. Some of those traits just do not carry forward.
I've joined my local dance community (Argentine Tango). I was away over the holidays and when I came to an event last night I was greeted by a fan club. Learning Tango is really difficult and vulnerable. The really good dancers are all really encouraging because they've been there!
Love this, Katharine. I believe so many of us were bought into the Church Operating System (which definitely includes Community) that we often end up adrift. When it comes to friends I've found that quality trumps quantity, meaning even having 1-2 close pals you can count on can go a long way. I've also found many people were never taught the skills of friendship and community along the way, and often times we have to be the ones to lead, even when it feels scary. I try to take every opportunity to meet new people, but at the same time I'm very cautious about further investment if the chemistry seems off. It will be interesting to see what new social opportunities spring up in the decade to come as church attendance continues to decline. We're social creatures and so it's only a matter of time before we figure this out as a society at large. Thanks again for writing and sharing!! HNY!!
A new support group is being formed (even as you read this) it is for friends and relations of folks who talk too much-On and On and On Anon,the same thoughts apply to business meetings,those without a topic accomplish little. Those with a pre announced purpose,give folks a chance to gather their thoughts. To misquote others but somewhat apropos "let it based on attraction rather than promotion"-Do what you choose to do,if others enjoy they will flock. If they don't,let it be their misfortune. We were raised in one of the most "communal" societies in the nation-the military. Some of those traits just do not carry forward.
haha, sign me up for the OaOaOa
I've joined my local dance community (Argentine Tango). I was away over the holidays and when I came to an event last night I was greeted by a fan club. Learning Tango is really difficult and vulnerable. The really good dancers are all really encouraging because they've been there!
Yes, I can see how that would be vulnerable, good for you for putting yourself out there! Glad you had a great homecoming.
Love this, Katharine. I believe so many of us were bought into the Church Operating System (which definitely includes Community) that we often end up adrift. When it comes to friends I've found that quality trumps quantity, meaning even having 1-2 close pals you can count on can go a long way. I've also found many people were never taught the skills of friendship and community along the way, and often times we have to be the ones to lead, even when it feels scary. I try to take every opportunity to meet new people, but at the same time I'm very cautious about further investment if the chemistry seems off. It will be interesting to see what new social opportunities spring up in the decade to come as church attendance continues to decline. We're social creatures and so it's only a matter of time before we figure this out as a society at large. Thanks again for writing and sharing!! HNY!!
thanks @Bodhi! Happy new year!