Try to remember, in 20 years -- when someone else you love can't save themselves -- that you learned certain patterns in loving your mom. And if you're like me, you may find yourself trying to relive those patterns, only this time you're going to SUCCEED. Because you're older, wiser, better equipped than that little girl who loved her somewhat broken mom. And then try to remember: you're not that little girl, this person 20 years from now is not your mom, and no amount of love will fix it all. Easier said than done.
Oh yes! If only we could just grab onto certainty and never let go! Except…no, that’s not so good either. Mindfully muddle-it’s all I’ve got to recommend here 🤷
Such a great piece! You make me realize our current national/global craziness forces me to not only learn more about how our government works as it is dismantled (like only learning how my car works when a repair is needed), but I'm also having to develop a working anatomy of anxiety, as it discombobulates parts of me and my life I generally think I handle pretty well. I appreciate having a couple new categories for it, and I especially appreciate you tying that to your own experience. Thank you!
Sending you love as you navigate your specific circumstances, & thanking you for sharing this b/c it resonates w me as well. Like you, I'm a "dig to find the answers" person. And I find it hard to relax amid continuing uncertainty; I want to keep searching for the answers! As we're all learning, there aren't always answers and there is often uncertainty.
Try to remember, in 20 years -- when someone else you love can't save themselves -- that you learned certain patterns in loving your mom. And if you're like me, you may find yourself trying to relive those patterns, only this time you're going to SUCCEED. Because you're older, wiser, better equipped than that little girl who loved her somewhat broken mom. And then try to remember: you're not that little girl, this person 20 years from now is not your mom, and no amount of love will fix it all. Easier said than done.
thanks, Christina. It's a hard lesson to learn, but I appreciate your encouragement <3
Oh yes! If only we could just grab onto certainty and never let go! Except…no, that’s not so good either. Mindfully muddle-it’s all I’ve got to recommend here 🤷
Ugh, yes! Whyyyyyyyy do things have to chaaaaaaaange?
Such a great piece! You make me realize our current national/global craziness forces me to not only learn more about how our government works as it is dismantled (like only learning how my car works when a repair is needed), but I'm also having to develop a working anatomy of anxiety, as it discombobulates parts of me and my life I generally think I handle pretty well. I appreciate having a couple new categories for it, and I especially appreciate you tying that to your own experience. Thank you!
thanks, Kathy! Glad we can muddle through this anxious season together
Sending you love as you navigate your specific circumstances, & thanking you for sharing this b/c it resonates w me as well. Like you, I'm a "dig to find the answers" person. And I find it hard to relax amid continuing uncertainty; I want to keep searching for the answers! As we're all learning, there aren't always answers and there is often uncertainty.
Thanks, Jennifer <3
Stoicism gets me through it all!
I don't want Stoicisim to be the answer, but it increasingly appears to be so!
Not enough romance in the world for you with Stoicism? I’m resolutely non-Romantic, so it suits me well.
More like my husband is a fan and I don't want him to be right?! :D
I don't think there "right," just right for you.