Love that redefinition of “perfect.” There has been so much evolution for me too over the past year and I think one of the biggest game changers for me was, like you said, lots of crying and making space for my little one. I think she is finally believing that she is safe with me, and that makes us both a lot more brave. ❤️
'But after a year, those things feel less important....'
Is it that eventually you want their importance to disappear? I don't have these concerns myself, but I'm interested in how, or why, someone can find they have to wrestle like this. I've read of course what you've written about the circumstances of your growing up, but that doesn't seem enough somehow.
I'm curious about the effects of religion on people generally. I can't get my head around it.
Of course I just stress and get depressed about tons of other things instead!
I think the brainwashing goes very deep. So much of life inside of Christianity is focused on, "Is this person a Christian or not?" It's very binary. Just getting away from Christian/not Christian and accepting gray areas of belief and spirituality feels like progress.
Your honesty and wit are, as always, very refreshing, James.
Love that redefinition of “perfect.” There has been so much evolution for me too over the past year and I think one of the biggest game changers for me was, like you said, lots of crying and making space for my little one. I think she is finally believing that she is safe with me, and that makes us both a lot more brave. ❤️
I love that. Here's to being real instead of being perfect.
'But after a year, those things feel less important....'
Is it that eventually you want their importance to disappear? I don't have these concerns myself, but I'm interested in how, or why, someone can find they have to wrestle like this. I've read of course what you've written about the circumstances of your growing up, but that doesn't seem enough somehow.
I'm curious about the effects of religion on people generally. I can't get my head around it.
Of course I just stress and get depressed about tons of other things instead!
I think the brainwashing goes very deep. So much of life inside of Christianity is focused on, "Is this person a Christian or not?" It's very binary. Just getting away from Christian/not Christian and accepting gray areas of belief and spirituality feels like progress.
Your honesty and wit are, as always, very refreshing, James.