Well said and well worth thinking about <3. The term "double consciousness" also comes to mind - a way W.E.B. Dubois described the experience of being Black in America. I also think women experience something like this more than men, since we are so consistently objectified, and the default human experience (as expressed in movies, books, politics, etc.) still so often assumes the perspective of a man.
"But the truth is that the people who love us not because we conform to some imaginary standard, but because we’re us. That means our obsessions, our corny jokes, annoying habits and all, even our cellulite, crow’s feet, back hair, and B.O. And that’s because love is specific. To be loved is to be irreplaceable, even by Sydney Sweeney."
Love is specific to our quirks... well said.
Also, not enough is said about the value of humor as an attractive quality. My entire generation was raised on the Pretty In Pink mentality that Blane is more desirable than Duckie. I mean really... BLANE?? Even as a teenager, that decision didn't make sense to me. I went to a high school FULL of Blanes and they were all dicks.
Hahaha, right? There's a lot more than physical that goes into attraction! This is probably why people don't understand why I find Nicholas Cage to be very hot!
This is really lovely. I have a movement disorder that has affected me my entire life. I recently had a surgery, with dramatic and positive results. I am still me but my experience in this body has changed so much, I can't help but think about how every uncontrolled movement has changed both my perception of my body, but also my 'self' inside it.
thank you for this valuable reminder. I watched your video about your surgery; I'm so glad it's working out for you, though I imagine it's a surreal change. How do we define ourselves? And how do we navigate these changes?
Well said and well worth thinking about <3. The term "double consciousness" also comes to mind - a way W.E.B. Dubois described the experience of being Black in America. I also think women experience something like this more than men, since we are so consistently objectified, and the default human experience (as expressed in movies, books, politics, etc.) still so often assumes the perspective of a man.
you're so right. It's the constant feeling of "how am I being perceived?"
"But the truth is that the people who love us not because we conform to some imaginary standard, but because we’re us. That means our obsessions, our corny jokes, annoying habits and all, even our cellulite, crow’s feet, back hair, and B.O. And that’s because love is specific. To be loved is to be irreplaceable, even by Sydney Sweeney."
Love is specific to our quirks... well said.
Also, not enough is said about the value of humor as an attractive quality. My entire generation was raised on the Pretty In Pink mentality that Blane is more desirable than Duckie. I mean really... BLANE?? Even as a teenager, that decision didn't make sense to me. I went to a high school FULL of Blanes and they were all dicks.
Hahaha, right? There's a lot more than physical that goes into attraction! This is probably why people don't understand why I find Nicholas Cage to be very hot!
This is really lovely. I have a movement disorder that has affected me my entire life. I recently had a surgery, with dramatic and positive results. I am still me but my experience in this body has changed so much, I can't help but think about how every uncontrolled movement has changed both my perception of my body, but also my 'self' inside it.
thank you for this valuable reminder. I watched your video about your surgery; I'm so glad it's working out for you, though I imagine it's a surreal change. How do we define ourselves? And how do we navigate these changes?